Romance Becomes Funmance

"I'm scared of being put in a corner, Johnny."

Love Without Words

When you love someone, there comes a time when you don't need to speak to say I love you. And I imagine that when you find your TRUE love, saying "I love you," will come in the simplest forms.

I personally believe the ultimate test of love is found in a struggle; not a struggle between the lovers but a struggle within. There are sometimes internal battles must be fought and if he or she will stand by you through it all that's the greatest "I Love You" there is.

Last night on "So You Think You Can Dance", choreographer Tyce DiOrio created a piece that said just that.

Don't Knock It Til You Try It

In a conversation with a couple of friends they told me of several weird and strange situations with their significant others.

I was blown away, not by the situation, but because I couldn't understand the logic behind it; it was a mystery to me. Of course, I'm not going to tell you what they said, but I will say this, I don't think I'll ever understand it (trust me I understand a lot)!

So anyway, a few days later, I spoke with one of my friends and her explanation was that she couldn't explain it (way to go). She said it's just one of those things that happens and you just go with it because it doesn't feel weird at all.

The point is at the end of the day my lesson was basically not to knock it until I've tried it.

I doubt if that happens.

Love Gone Wrong

Five months after the assaulting Rihanna, Chris Brown made a public apology saying there was no excuse for his actions.



So what's the deal on his ultra late public apology? I can't say his apology in general is late because he said he's already apologized to Rihanna, but does anyone else think his statement should have come out a while ago? Or at least right after his court hearing.

I'm still on the fence about him.

Falling In Love With Love

Disney Films are all about the happy ending. For several of the fairytales the happy endings come with falling in love.

However, love is not like a fairytale. It comes with hard work and sleepless nights, it comes with heartache and headache but, in the beginning isn't it just fun?


Going out, waiting for that person to call or talking all night long and not worrying about getting up the next day is fun. It's the time you fall in love and love the idea of being in love.

So why not enjoy it while it last and even when things get tough, remember how it felt falling in love with love.

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40 Can Be Fun

So I was hit on not once today but twice, but by older men. One man was in his late 20s/early 30s and the other was 40; he told me so.

Ironically the 40-year-old man was much more attractive and suave than the younger and if he wasn't so much older or I wasn't so much younger I would have given him a shot.

I think if I were around 25 or so I'd go out with him. I shared this with my mother and sister and neither of them approved. As a liberal thinker I always believe that you should be with whoever makes you happy, no matter age, race, gender etc.

While age differences can strain relationships I don't think there's any harm in giving it a shot. Besides the difference between this older man and the others I've referenced is that there was potential for a mutual attraction.

She's Just Not That Into You

Hopefully you've read the book or saw the movie "He's Just Not That Into You," because what I'm about to say should sound familar but with a twist.

Guys often make moves that don't make sense and sometimes they make moves that freak girls out. If I have to ask, "Who's the girl in this relationship," then you need to back up.

If we've just met and you're getting serious a little too quickly, then you need to back up. If I answer your texts and not your calls, well then you figure it out.

Don't assume all girls are the same and do not assume everyone is into you.

Let me cut to the chase, guys, if she want's you she'll make it happen. If a few weeks pass and you're going nowhere...she's just not that into you.

Jon and Hailey Plus ?

So while we're on the subject of young girls, why is 22-year-old Hailey Glassmen dating Jon Gosselin? He's not that rich and he's not that big of a celebrity.


I mean let's think about it, he's getting a public divorce and he has eight children. He has eight children, he has eight children, he has eight children!

No offense to all the men out there taking care of their kids but, if I'm 22 I don't want to be around one child let alone eight.

The sex can't be that great, can it?

Photo courtesy of TMZ.com

We Need to Talk Young Girls

I love my generation but sometimes I don't get us. Why are we the ones who "fall in love" in high school and think it will last forever?

I was watching the Wendy Williams Show and a 18/19-year-old asked Wendy what should she do about her boyfriend of 3.5 years who broke up with her because he knows they'll get married and he wants to have his fun now.

What the hell was she talking about? "Was she serious,: I asked myself and then I remembered that I've heard that story many times before, from my own friends. And all the times I've heard it I've had to pretend as if I believed the crap that was coming out of their mouths. What I really wanted to say was, "You're not going to be together next week, let alone in 10 or 15 years."

Young girls, myself included (occasionally), think realistically and GET IT TOGETHER!

The Perfect Mix

Yesterday, I was listening to the "Wendy Williams Experience" and a woman called in to ask where she should go to meet Mr. Right. Williams didn't recommend any specific places because Mr. Right could be anywhere but, what she did recommend was opening her options through other cultures.

You would have thought Williams said "Yo Momma," to this woman. She was super opposed to the idea.

However, her reaction opened my eyes to how closed-minded women can be and then they complain when they are man less. There's a perfect solution to that problem: stop being so damn picky. Thinking outside the box is how we broaden our horizons, it's when we shut down that we create problems.

If you open your mind and your heart, you just might surprise yourself.

Perfect Future

I was able to sleep in this morning but it didn't really work. Instead I watched an episode of one my favorite shows "Charmed". Throughout the episode one of the sisters desperately tried to get some knowledge into the future.

In the end, her father said something that made sense; he said not to worry about the future and to live now.

Its a great piece of advice for the day because the younger we are, the more we worry about what the future will hold but, all we can do is live now.

Our family and friendships, our careers and even our love lives get in the way. I'd like to challenge everyone: this weekend, for two days don't worry about the future. Don't think of Monday or September or next year, just live in the now.

Life just might be a easier, at least for two days.

Perfect Pride In Tact

Last week I shared a horrific experience about my mother trying to set me. For the better part the week my mother asked if I wanted to attend her company picnic in which I'd meet this boy.

After last year's picnic, where I was not at all entertained, I had already made up my mind not to go. And because I was already embarrassed by the matchmaker, I definitely was not going to go.

Like I said before, there's something more romantic about meeting by chance and it doesn't hurt the ego to know someone might actually like you for you.

By the way, my mother told me yesterday that he didn't even show up for the picnic. (Does that really matter?)

Not Another Bad Date

Last night I finished reading "Not Another Bad Date," by Rachel Gibson. It was utterly entertaining and somewhat lustful. I had a really great time reading it but, I also had a really great time relating to the main character.

Obviously, I'm not a 35-year-old woman who thinks her biological clock is "tapping her on the shoulder" but, I am a young woman who like most, thinks she's cursed in the relationship department.

We can all relate in someway to having bad dates, bad relationships or just plain old bad luck. When you think you've found the right guy, one of you always manages to screw things up.

I won't tell you what happens in the end, but I will say good things come to those who wait.

Palin Didn't Screw It Up For Women

Anyone who think Sarah Palin ruined politics for women is wrong. There are a number of reasons why in the wake of Palin's resignation women can still prosper.

Let's start with the most obvious, not many people respected Palin as a politician before July 3. After her run as Vice-Presidential candidate last year what little dignity she had went right out the window. During the campaign she was misinformed or under-informed which made her look like an amateur in politics.

And who can forget her "witty" slogan that she and McCain were the Mavericks. I mean really did anyone take the Conservative, Republican seriously when she proclaimed her inner rebel?

With women like Michelle Obama and Hillary Clinton in the forefront there was never a time when Palin was looked at as the role model for women in politics. As for Palin running for president in 2010, let's get serious.

Looking in the Wrong Place

Church is not the place to find "the one," unless you mean God. On Sundays when the pews crowd of single people its not because they want to be closer with the Lord and are looking for a savior.

Black films poke fun at the idea but in reality it's the truth. The funny thing about looking for love at church is that the female:male ratio is off...by a lot.

Guys might not have trouble looking but girls on the other hand may find themselves under numbered. I can almost hear the echo in the air, "If church has become the place to find love, Lord please let the pews fill with men."