The Perfect Mix

Yesterday, I was listening to the "Wendy Williams Experience" and a woman called in to ask where she should go to meet Mr. Right. Williams didn't recommend any specific places because Mr. Right could be anywhere but, what she did recommend was opening her options through other cultures.

You would have thought Williams said "Yo Momma," to this woman. She was super opposed to the idea.

However, her reaction opened my eyes to how closed-minded women can be and then they complain when they are man less. There's a perfect solution to that problem: stop being so damn picky. Thinking outside the box is how we broaden our horizons, it's when we shut down that we create problems.

If you open your mind and your heart, you just might surprise yourself.

Perfect Future

I was able to sleep in this morning but it didn't really work. Instead I watched an episode of one my favorite shows "Charmed". Throughout the episode one of the sisters desperately tried to get some knowledge into the future.

In the end, her father said something that made sense; he said not to worry about the future and to live now.

Its a great piece of advice for the day because the younger we are, the more we worry about what the future will hold but, all we can do is live now.

Our family and friendships, our careers and even our love lives get in the way. I'd like to challenge everyone: this weekend, for two days don't worry about the future. Don't think of Monday or September or next year, just live in the now.

Life just might be a easier, at least for two days.

Perfect Pride In Tact

Last week I shared a horrific experience about my mother trying to set me. For the better part the week my mother asked if I wanted to attend her company picnic in which I'd meet this boy.

After last year's picnic, where I was not at all entertained, I had already made up my mind not to go. And because I was already embarrassed by the matchmaker, I definitely was not going to go.

Like I said before, there's something more romantic about meeting by chance and it doesn't hurt the ego to know someone might actually like you for you.

By the way, my mother told me yesterday that he didn't even show up for the picnic. (Does that really matter?)

Not Another Bad Date

Last night I finished reading "Not Another Bad Date," by Rachel Gibson. It was utterly entertaining and somewhat lustful. I had a really great time reading it but, I also had a really great time relating to the main character.

Obviously, I'm not a 35-year-old woman who thinks her biological clock is "tapping her on the shoulder" but, I am a young woman who like most, thinks she's cursed in the relationship department.

We can all relate in someway to having bad dates, bad relationships or just plain old bad luck. When you think you've found the right guy, one of you always manages to screw things up.

I won't tell you what happens in the end, but I will say good things come to those who wait.

Palin Didn't Screw It Up For Women

Anyone who think Sarah Palin ruined politics for women is wrong. There are a number of reasons why in the wake of Palin's resignation women can still prosper.

Let's start with the most obvious, not many people respected Palin as a politician before July 3. After her run as Vice-Presidential candidate last year what little dignity she had went right out the window. During the campaign she was misinformed or under-informed which made her look like an amateur in politics.

And who can forget her "witty" slogan that she and McCain were the Mavericks. I mean really did anyone take the Conservative, Republican seriously when she proclaimed her inner rebel?

With women like Michelle Obama and Hillary Clinton in the forefront there was never a time when Palin was looked at as the role model for women in politics. As for Palin running for president in 2010, let's get serious.

Looking in the Wrong Place

Church is not the place to find "the one," unless you mean God. On Sundays when the pews crowd of single people its not because they want to be closer with the Lord and are looking for a savior.

Black films poke fun at the idea but in reality it's the truth. The funny thing about looking for love at church is that the female:male ratio is off...by a lot.

Guys might not have trouble looking but girls on the other hand may find themselves under numbered. I can almost hear the echo in the air, "If church has become the place to find love, Lord please let the pews fill with men."

Perfect Guy or Perfect Pride

Everyone hates blind dates, but what I think people hate more than that is being set up by your parents.

There have been a few occasions when my mother has talked about a guy but she's never actually talked to the guy. Well today is a new day!

She practically reported half of his life story to me and vice verse and now wants us to meet. Any one's who pride isn't hurt after that shouldn't be dating at all (your emotions are clearly screwed up).

The absolute worse part is listening to her talk about this guy is me thinking, "Sounds like a good one but, why couldn't we have met by chance". Is is so bad to want to meet someone because he's interested in you and not because your mother talked you up?

And when is it okay to set aside your pride and take a chance on life?