Just Say No

For a while I've tried to be a people pleaser. I wanted everyone to like me and think of me as the nicest person they ever met.

I want people to think of me as the person who puts others first but, I've found that to be difficult because many times I have to put Kristin first and I haven't.

I've always been worried about what people would think about me when I die. Will they say I'm nice or a bitch? Will say that I'm going to heaven or hell? Will they wish me be back or be glad that I'm gone? I know these are strange questions but they run through everyone's head at least once.

However, something else that runs through my mind is that someday I can forget about what everyone else thinks and just be me.

Well that day has sort of come for me. I am finding it easier to take control of my life and forget about trying to please everyone else. The fact of the matter is that I just can't make everyone happy and trying to do so will make me insane.

I want to live a long, healthy life and I won't be able to do that worrying about others. It's time to take of Kristin and it's time for you to take care of you. :))

What Can You Do?

While it's good to believe in yourself, it's also good to know yourself. You have to know your limitation's and your strengths.

Often we dream high without realizing the steps necessary to achieve our goals. A friend of mine made a very interesting statement. He said that everyone can't be president, even after our newly inaugurated President Obama. He also made a point of saying that applies to everyone, no matter race.

After a brief moment, I concluded he was right. Everyone can't be president. Yes, everyone can dream of being president but everyone can't do it.

The same applies for normal, everyday life circumstances. You may want to be a doctor but if you aren't good at science, guess what? You probably shouldn't be a doctor (at least not one that tends to my needs).

Take a look at something else, something you are good at and something you want to do. The most successful people aren't necessarily the people who have everything planned out. Many times the most successful people are the people who hit speed bumps along the way and still come out on top.

So let me ask you: What do you want to do and what can you do? :))


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Don't Know What To Do?

All too often we stand behind our pride and we miss great opportunities or good advice. If we never ask for help, how will we know what not to do the next time.

It's true we must learn from our mistakes but it's also true that we must ask for a helping hand. Guess what? Now is your time to ask for help.

I am expanding my blog to not only life lessons, but to advice as well. Post a question or remark if you'd like to get a response from me. Hopefully, after reading my blog you've come to see that I can be insightful at times and I am willing to share my knowledge with others.

I'm ready to be showered with your thoughts and ideas :))

Coping

Does it ever seems like you find yourself in awkward situations or situations you just don't want to tolerate?

Well join the club. It's a part of life - to be uncomfortable. There's not much anyone can do about. Eventually the feeling subsides or the situation fixes itself and all is well.

I'm only 20-years-old and I've found myself in those kinds of instances. The one piece of advice I can give is to accept it and move on. Don't dwell on what you can't fix, it will only upset you. Just realize it happens and get on with life.

Too many times, we are blinded by our anger that we aren't able to see when something good happens. Adopting this new approach to life will give you better days and less stress. I don't know anyone who wouldn't like that. :))

This Is Our Time

It’s about time. What took us so long? Yesterday was probably the greatest moment in our nation’s history and it took forever to get there.

The fact that President Obama is African-American is great (it’s really great), but the fact that my generation finally stood up for what they believe is great as well.

Did we really need to wait for a historical election to allow our voices to be heard? Did it have to take a man who could talk to us like we were his own friends?
The answer to those questions should be “no”. However, we don’t like in a perfect world, do we? For years the youth vote has been ignored because we’ve been too lazy to stand up for what we believe in. We’ve sat back and allowed people into the white house who only wanted the job for show, when all along we should have made them listen to us by exercising the rights we have.

Speak up young people; speak up when it’s about more than history. Speak up when the economy is doing well, when we aren’t fighting any wars and when our lives seems to be doing O.K. Don’t let it be eight years from now and you call it quits. Stand up and say: “This is our time! We are America’s future, so listen to us today!” :))


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Change Has Come

On the eve of the most historical presidential inauguration I find myself getting more emotional by the minute. Since Nov. 5 I’ve constantly told myself and others that having the first African-American president isn’t something I never imagined would happen. Personally speaking I’ve always imagined the first African-American president to be me.





However, I believe in this time and this place, President-Elect Obama is the perfect choice. He is the poster-child (so to speak) for change. I can’t picture anyone better fit for the job. In his speeches and in his heart I can feel his sincerity and his hope for a better America.

I don’t have a life lesson for today, I only have hope. I have hope that we, as Americans, will stand together on tomorrow and accept change. I hope that the coming months will prove to be great triumph over the damages of the last eight years. I hope that President-Elect Obama is not the last face of change for this country. We are truly one nation under God and it’s time we start acting like it. And tomorrow we will begin to act like it.

It Will All Be Worth It

Financial Guru Suze Orman is on the money - literally. On an episode of Oprah, she gave millions of people financial advice to get them back on track in 2009. I, like many people, am trying to live by her words of wisdom. Each day gets tougher and tougher and I don't know how I am going to make it.

Today I turned down a dinner outing because of Orman. In the back of my head I kept hearing her words inspiring and her 2009 action plan. She said 2009 is when we pay for everything that happened in 2008 and she's right. So she wrote a great book: "Suze Orman's 2009 Action Plan: Keeping Your Money Safe and Sound" (I recommend for all) that has become my personal financial consultant. This is the year of financial freedom and Independence among other things.

I know that its going to be a difficult 12 months but they are 12 months that will produce the most good. I want to make sure that 2010 is a better than the past year. Therefore, whenn I say no to guilty pleasures I know that it's all worth with it in the end. :))